B and I are going through a weird stage in our relationship. We are celebrating our one year anniversary on the 1st of January so we have been together for quite some time now. We are about to end out "everything is about us" stage in our relationship where we don't want to spend time with anyone but ourselves and we are getting ready to enter the "couple friends" stage in our relationship.
The problem is that we don't know any other couples that a) live close by, b) are normal, c)like to have fun and hang out.
Most of the couples we know are either so messed up and on some sort of drug most of the time, they are completely boring, or they just way to fucked up otherwise. So now we have to make new friends.
We are thinking about making a list of single friends we know and hooking them up so we have people to hang out with.
Is that strange? If you are in a relationship, did you go through this stage? How did you deal with it?
17 years ago
6 comments:
Hmmm, weird situation. My BF and I found several new friends via the internet, that could work out for you too.
I still don't know how this couple-dating thingie works. Alec and I are both hermits, we can't deal! ahaha, j/k. But it's true, we are hermits, and along with that, our couple'd friends live too far. :-(
Happy happy new year to you and Ben!!! woohoo! Another year! Hope I get to talk to you more in 2008, either that or Yahoo! gets completely blocked at my work! gaaah!
My ex and I strated doing activities together so that we could meet new people (and couples) outside the regular fucked-up bar scene. It worked really well for us.
I have the same problem. Outside of my cousin and her husband, We have no good couple friends in the vacinity either.
If I were in the cities still, I'd have a total of two good couple friends. But other than that, we've got nothing.
I think it would be fun to have a couple couple friends, but how do you find good ones?
First, FWMama must snicker a bit over your carefully orchestrated "emergence" complete with itemized lists, etc. Snort.
Quite frankly, you might not be able to find couple-friends that meet your criteria. As you've already discovered, most couples are too preoccupied dealing with their own baggage. And the last thing you want to do is get sucked into their drama. It tends to have an effect on your own relationship whether you like it or not.
I'd reach out to your stable single friends rather than waste energy searching for something you might not find.
Hmmm....most of our couples friends we were already friends with through work so it has worked out well, but it can be kind of odd, knowing where to start.
Maybe have a party and invite couples and ask them to bring their couple friends. You may find friends through friends whose company you enjoy more, if that makes sense (that's what happened with us). Then it was tricky - how to hang out with the second couple who you enjoy more, without the first couple knowing...oh the drama...it's working though. Sounds like a Seinfeld episode.
p.s. didn't record the weather network. sadly I never saw it but lots of people at work did. :)
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